By: Natasha Uspensky, CHHC
It is very difficult to make healthy choices for your body, take care of your body, and treat it well when you hate it. Loving your body does not have to mean that you love everything about it, or that you do not want to change things about it. But loving it, right now, just the way it is, is a crucial step toward getting healthy, happy, and losing weight! When you love something, you want to take care of it, protect it, and make it feel good. When you hate something, you abuse it, neglect it, and criticize it. Which way sounds more conducive to healthy eating, lifestyle, relationships, and thoughts? Here’s how to start loving your body right now:
1. Determine where your body hatred comes from.
We live in a society that deems openly loving your body taboo. We have trouble accepting compliments; we feel the need to make self-deprecating comments; we bond with other women over hating our bodies instead of loving them. Find the source of this habit for you. Is it an attitude you inherited from your mother or a sibling? Is it a product of your social scene? Find the root, and vow to step outside it, be bigger than it. Make a conscious CHOICE to start loving your body, right now.
2. Loving your body does not mean giving in to what it looks like right now.
The biggest reason most women give for why they don’t love their bodies is that they fear losing the motivation for change and weight loss if they accept and love themselves as they are. But know this: if you hate your body now, you aren’t going to magically be full of self-love when you finally reach your ideal weight. In fact, you may even miss out on feeling amazing for reaching your goals because you are so mired with that self-criticism you’re so used to feeling. Regardless of what shape they’re in now, our bodies allow us to live, walk this earth and experience all the pleasures in it. That is a lot to love! Having gratitude toward your body for all the amazing things it allows you to do and experience, and loving your body for that does not mean that you don’t want to be stronger, leaner, more flexible and sexier. We can always be working on improving ourselves in some way, but when that comes from a place of LOVE, we will be so much more successful, and enjoy ourselves along the way!
3. Prioritize feeling good.
When you love something you want to make it feel good. When you hate something, you deprive it of joy, affection, and pleasure. Which way do you think leads to weight loss, happiness and fulfillment? When you love your body, you can shower it with things that feel amazing. Massages, yummy smelling natural beauty products, delicious and healthy food, dancing, sex, trips to the beach, beautiful clothes – all these things show love to yourself, make you feel SO much happier and taken care of, and yes, make weight loss a breeze! But when you hate your body, you feed it junk food, cover it in frumpy clothing to hide it, keep it inside on the couch, living a small life, and abuse it with alcohol, sugar, drugs, cigarettes, soda, and other horrible things. I’ll tell you what, achieving a healthy weight and a happy, healthy body is impossible in that state of self-abuse. Making your body feel amazing and taken care of should be your TOP priority in your health journey. See what a huge difference it makes!
Loving your body is just a more fun, healthy, and pleasurable place from which to approach the work of transforming your diet and your life!
In the comments below, share how you are going to show your body more love, more care, more pleasurable experiences!